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My Natural Hair Up-date: Meeting the Lovely Loctician, Diana Dallas

October 31, 2014

The last time I wrote about my Sisterlocks and their long-discussed release was several months back. Well, you know what they say (whoever they are): you walk the walk and talk the talk before you venture out to make it happen. And that is precisely how I operate!

My Natural Hair Up-date is I’ve already undergone the infamous and delightedly notorious BIG CHOP, a natural-hair phenomenon, which involves Black girls and women chopping off their permed tresses or dreadlocks or Sisterlocks or loose natural hair in a Vlog on YouTube and simply starting on a new hair-growth adventure! Many of these sisters “whack” (as my Lil Sis hilariously says) their curls themselves. Others film the ceremony in hair salons and still others have it done at the hands of girlfriends. My sister, the fabulous Bernadette Stitts, who is a barber in a downtown Atlanta salon, did the deed for me!

Yes. I filmed My Big Chop and will be uploading it to my Claudia Moss (TheLadyBestseller) YouTube channel as soon as time permits. So if you haven’t ventured onto the Tube, please do. Subscribe. Like. Comment. And always remember to keep all nasty little comments private. You know the ones the brazen leave liberally! LOL (Not that we do. After all, we all know it’s those other people!) :)

Anyway, long before my sis whacked my Sisterlocks on October 20, 2014, I sent a call into the Universe for someone to accept my lovingly attended locs of twenty-plus years. I scoured the net, seeking organizations who might be interested in using my hair to benefit others. The search was futile. No organization wanted my kind of hair. Then the thought occurred to me to use my Facebook platform.

That’s when the lovely Diana Dallas and I connected. Some of you may recall I mentioned her before in another blog post. She had been incredibly patient with me. Goodness knows I changed my Sisterlocks release date constantly.

Diana Dallas

But Halloween 2014 was the day the Universe saw fit for us to connect. How sweet was that! And she even had dark-chocolate candy bars in a cute basket in her cozy shop, a space I loved instantly. I could’ve visited longer than I did, as Dallas was a wellspring of information about the care of natural hair and dreadlocks. She is bright, easy going and good natured. Her locs are gorgeous, just as they are in her Facebook pictures. She and her adorable assistant were vivacious, cordial and sunny rays on a cloudy day.

In her salon, in an attractive space at 5400 Memorial Drive, in Stone Mountain, GA, Diana Dallas specializes in Repair, Color, Styles and Dread Extensions. If there is a doubt about her talents, one has only to gaze at her headful of luscious locs, a look and style she maintains.

I filmed our meeting and will be posting it on my YouTube channel as well. It was my honor and blessing to finally meet the lovely loctician. With a refreshing candor, she shared her journey out of Corporate America and into Entrepreneurial Paradise. No worries. No schedule but her own.

She looked relaxed after consulting with a client before she was able to chat with me. As we spoke, I felt special, like, I’m certain, all of her clients. Her attention is expressly yours. Later, when she moves her salon to a larger location in November, I’ll pay her another visit to learn of her Natural Hair Journey. Before I departed Diana’s space, I was inspired and motivated, lifted and enlightened. She is living in her truth, each day a joy of locs and love, both of which she shares bounteously. I can hardly wait to film our next exchange!

Visit her website to learn about her Loctician Classes, Dreadlock Services, Dreading Techniques and view her Dreadlock Style Gallery.

Contact her using the following information:

Appointments only
Private Location

Mucho amor siempre…

S. Andrea Allen is the first author on the LEZ TALK BOOKS BLOG TOUR!

October 22, 2014
S. Andrea Allen, author extraordinaire

S. Andrea Allen, author extraordinaire


I am delighted to participate in the LEZ TALK BOOK BLOG TOUR! The tour will feature an exciting new author in a queue of wonderful lesbian authors. You don’t want to miss the line-up, so enjoy and stay tuned.

Meet S. Andrea Allen, a native southerner and out Black lesbian writer and educator.

Her works in progress include A Failure to Communicate, a collection of short fiction, and a collection of creative non-fiction, Black Lesbian Feminist: Essays. She is also co-editor of Voices de Queer Femmes, an upcoming anthology of femme writing. She has written for Elixher Magazine and has been blogging for several years.

Stephanie is also on the advisory board of the upcoming film A Persistent Desire, which documents the experiences of butch/femme relationships in lesbian communities and serves as a consultant on the Bay Area Lesbian History Archive Project. She has previously served as a board member of Pride Lafayette, a non-profit LGBT community center in Indiana, and volunteered at Odyssey Youth Center, a non-profit for LGBT youth in Spokane, Washington. She presently serves on the LGBT Studies advisory committee at Purdue University.


Tell us about A Failure to Communicate.

  It’s always hard to describe your work in a few words, but all of the stories in the collection focus on the ways in which communication, or the lack thereof, impacts our lives and experiences. Of course there are stories about failed communications in relationships, but I’ve also included a little story about a bake-off, where it’s clear that one of the characters didn’t get the message about the rules of the contest and doesn’t understand why she didn’t win. It’s a little tongue in cheek, but it was really fun to write. Another theme in the collection is that all of the stories have Black lesbian protagonists. All of the women are very different and at various stages of their lives. What’s interesting about them is the manner in which their ability to communicate (or not) has either left them broken or set them free.

When you’re not writing, what do you do for fun?

Fun? What’s that?  Right now I’m working full time, trying to finish my dissertation, working on three manuscripts, hosting a radio show, and starting a micro-press! I have very little time for anything but working, but when I need to take a break, I get in my car and drive. I love road trips, and I’ve taken quite a few really long drives alone. Driving relaxes me, and I’m able to just enjoy the moment I’m in. I do love the life I’m living right now, so I think that I’m having fun even with all of the chaos.

What cultural value do you see in writing A Failure to Communicate?

One of the things I hope that my work accomplishes is to uncover the myriad experiences of Black women, Black lesbians in particular. I’ve been a student and teacher of literature for several years, and I’m drawn to literary fiction. I like to think of my own work as Black lesbian literary fiction, and only time and the critics will tell if that’s actually the case. I believe I’m writing the types of books that I’ve always wanted to read, books that have cultural and social value to Black women who look for themselves in the pages of contemporary literary fiction and continue to find themselves wanting. Barbara Smith wrote about this need for Black lesbian fiction back in 1977 and even though we’ve come a long way since then, there’s just so much about our lives that remains hidden, even from ourselves. Part of what I hope to do is remind us that even though we may have much to lament in our lives, we also have much to celebrate.

Are there underrepresented groups or ideas featured in A Failure to Communicate?

Of course! All of my work focuses on Black lesbians.

What kinds of books do you like to read?

I read a little of everything. I read lots of literary fiction including Toni Morrison, Percival Everett, Jewelle Gomez, James Baldwin, Zadie Smith, and Philip Roth. I also love apocalyptic type novels like Justin Cronin’s trilogy, The Twelve. Because I’m still working on my dissertation, I’m always reading literary criticism and other scholarly texts. I love Patricia Hill Collins, bell hooks, Audre Lorde, and other Black feminist writers. Finally, I’m a sucker for creative non-fiction, and I’m actually working on a collection of essays myself. My all time favorites are my literary foremother and father: Baldwin’s Notes on a Native Son, and Audre Lorde’s Sister Outsider, but I also love Roxanne Gay’s Ayiti. I’ve also purchased Bad Feminist, but I haven’t had time to read it yet. Every now and then I’ll pick up something new that looks interesting. Just recently I finished Walter Mosley’s Debbie Doesn’t Do it Anymore. I was like whoa! I’ve read several of his books but this was like nothing I’ve ever read by him. It’s short, so you can read it in a day or two, but it will certainly stick with you.



The LEZ TALK BOOKS BLOG TOUR is a collaborative effort by

black lesbian writers of fiction and nonfiction works.


These writers will also be featured on LEZ TALK BOOKS RADIO.

Visit for details on upcoming shows.


Appreciating Fellow Writer, ODESSA ROSE

October 7, 2014
Award-winning novelist Odessa Rose's novel, IN THE MIRROR

Award-winning novelist Odessa Rose’s novel, IN THE MIRROR

I met Odessa Rose when I purchased her first novel, Water In A Broken Glass, several years ago. The story was captivating and memorable in a read-it-again-soon way. For those who haven’t encountered it, the novel, in Rose’s words, tells the story “through the artistic lens of sculptor Tonya Mimms” and “explores a woman’s inability to accept her homosexuality and the problems that arise in her quest to deny her own existence.” It is a riveting tale that is by measure serious, humorous, and mysterious. I came to know more of her as a person the evening I heard her being interviewed as a guest of Kat Williams’ SIPPIN ON INK Internet radio show. Later, we became Facebook friends, and I can honestly say Dessa Rose is a wonderful woman, who loves her family, friends and fans, her art, her life and her city, Baltimore, MD!

Recently, I caught up with Odessa Rose to celebrate the release of her new novel, IN THE MIRROR. Rose’s Facebook challenge to engage fans in the celebration of the novel wowed me! I loved it! She invited us to post a picture of what IN THE MIRROR looked like to us. And what follows is one of my picture responses!


Me meeting the In The Mirror Challenge

I am and have always been the type of writer who is ever fascinated with writing, reading and the love of other writers, my joy wrapped in communicating with them to appreciate their words, understand the magic of how they do what they do and delight in shining a spotlight on the writers who intrigue me. We learn much and are richly blessed when we bow in creating our own art to celebrate another engaged in doing what we do; therefore, it gives me great pleasure to share ODESSA ROSE with you!


1.) When did you first realize you were a writer?

I first realized I was a writer in my late twenties. When I was nine, I told my mother I wanted to be a writer, and she said, “Well, write, baby.” And I did. I started writing short stories and tried my hand at a poem or two. In the 90’s I started hanging around a group of poets and reading my fiction at coffee shops on poetry night. One night after a reading I made the mistake of saying that I was an aspiring writer to a wonderful poet named Juanita Jackson. In a very caring voice, she scolded me, saying, “You write so you’re a writer. You don’t have to be ‘published’ to call yourself a writer.” I’ve looked at myself as a writer ever since.

2.) What is your writing process?

My writing process is not very complicated. Typically, a story takes hold of me and doesn’t let me go until I get the first draft down. So, I’ll write without regard for spelling, grammar, or structure. I usually know the ending and write until I get there. That doesn’t mean the ending will stay the same once I begin the editing process, which is my favorite part of writing. This is the time the story and characters begin to really take shape and their personalities, voices, motives, cares, and fears come to the surface. It is also the time that they take complete control of the story and tell me what they would and would not do or say. So, I guess in short, I write the first draft, edit, edit, edit, and edit until the characters say, “Well done. You’ve got me down pat.”


I got my copy of the novel! Yeah!

3.) Where is your favorite place to write? Time?

My favorite place to write is at home. I have a little corner in our dining room with a table and my laptop, and around 12 midnight, when everyone is asleep and all the household chores are done, and the house is quiet, I write until about 2 am. I’ve tried to write during the day on the weekends, but my creative juices flow better in the middle of the night. I think it’s because I’m a wife and a mother and I feel guilty taking time from them. At night, I’m totally free.

4.) Do you have a writing muse?

For me, I think my muse is writing itself. I just love to write. I love telling stories.

5.) How did the idea for the latest release come to you?

I was working on a story entitled Kizmic’s Journey when the idea for In The Mirror invaded my thoughts. The news was inundated with the sad tales of the other woman, and I wondered what she would do if she had the opportunity to see her married lover with his family? How would she feel? What would be her story? Who is the other woman? Is she this horrible home wrecker everyone screams about? Is she the psychopath people characterize her as being? What does she have to do in order to survive in her role as the other woman? I couldn’t finish Kizmic’s Journey until I’d answered these questions.

6.) What are your writing goals for 2014?

My writing goals for 2014 are to finally finish Kizmic’s Journey and to start my next novel, entitled The Subway. I’ve been working on Kizmic’s Journey since 2000. She is my baby. I can’t wait to introduce her to the world. The Subway has been in my head for a few years now. I can’t wait to start putting it on paper.


Odessa Rose

7.) How did the writing process differ between the writing of Mirror and Water?

The process didn’t differ too much. I never use an outline. The idea comes and I just start writing. Now, I’m a lot better at telling a story than I was when I first wrote Water. So, I have a better understanding of how to convey my ideas and themes and flesh out my characters through imagery, dialogue, and setting.

8.) What advice would you share with writers at this point on your writing journey?

The best advice I can give other writers is to believe in yourself and your work. If you don’t believe in it, no one else will. And even if you manage to push out a book, if you don’t believe in it, you’ll have a hard time convincing people to buy it, which is the most difficult part of being a writer. Most think that writing the book is hard, and it is. It takes a lot to write a book. But selling it takes everything you got and then some.

Odessa Rose
In the Mirror
Water In A Broken Glass
Kizmic’s Journey Coming Soon

ODESSA ROSE’s website is a writing treasure trove and paradise! Her novels can be found on AMAZON and other venues where books are sold.


October 7, 2014

“The next time you find yourself dismissing a piece of writing, please remember this: Entitlement ultimately corrodes your creative efforts. Generosity and humility will get you a lot further as a writer.”

~ Steve Almond
“The Problem of Entitlement: A Question of Respect”

Sonny and Jazzie: Activists for Marriage Equality (An Interview)

October 7, 2014

I am a crusader for marriage equality. I am a lesbian who hopes to float the red carpet to my beautiful wife one day. I am a humanist who believes that everyone deserves life, liberty, love and the pursuit of happiness, and, as such, it is my delight to share this interview with the auspicious activists for marriage equality, Sabrina “Sonny” Jones-Smith and her lovely wife, Joyce “Jazzie” Jones-Smith.

Sonny is from Chicago, and Jazzie is from Durham, N.C. They reside in Stockbridge, Georgia, in a suburb south of downtown Atlanta.


1. Greetings, ladies! It is indeed a pleasure to have you as esteemed guests on my blog! For openers, I love knowing the backstory of where, when, and how a couple met. Please share the beginning of your love story with us.

We met March of 2012 at a function we were both booked to Emcee. Unbeknownst to each other, we ended up co-hosting the event and had a ball! We found out that evening that we both attended the same church. At the time, we both were coming out of unsuccessful relationships. Months later during Labor Day weekend, we reunited at “House in the Park” in Downtown Atlanta in September 2012. Not knowing the other would be there, we met on the dance floor and truly found a connection on both personal and spiritual levels. With much laughter, fun and ease, we haven’t been apart since. We found that we had so much in common. Our professional and social interests, our love of travel and spirituality, and our love of dancing and music brought us together, and to this day the combination sustains us.

Mayday Sonny jazzie pic

2. When did you get married? In what state?

We married March of 2014, in the District of Columbia, in Washington. On the way to our youngest son’s wedding in Martha’s Vineyard, we stopped and had our ceremonial marriage and photo shoot in D.C, with four friends. Our best man was Eugene Cornelius, an openly gay White House-Appointed Deputy Sheriff of the U.S. Small Business Administration. Our matron of honor was White House-Appointed Sharon Lettman-Hicks, who is also the CEO and Executive Director of the National Black Justice Coalition. Our additional two friends, a same-gender-loving couple that assisted in our union—they previously resided in Georgia but moved to D.C. months before our wedding, largely due to inequality—were Michelle Alexander Dowell-Vest, who officiated, and our photographer, Teresa Alexander Dowell-Vest of Diva Blue Photography.

The ceremony was performed in our best man’s home, a home ironically facing Capital Hill. It was such an intimate moment for all of us. In the back of our minds, we knew that although it was magical, we would be required to host the ceremony again in our home state of GA with the inclusion of our family and friends, as if it were all happening for the first time later in the year.

3. What were the legal stages leading to your marriage? Any hurdles?

The legal stages that we faced are the same for all people: #1, apply for a license; #2, change your name; #3, apply for a new driver’s license, passport, etc. Well, for those in non-conforming states like GA, we have a great divide when we hear these statements from the clerk in an unequal rights state: “She and She- two girls? Two Women? Oh, we are sorry. We can not issue you a marriage license.” So you go out of state and get the marriage license, and in a few states, you can get a name change. However, if you wait and come back to Georgia or other states that are similar, you have to pay approximately $300 per person to change your name. Then the the judge still has to agree to do it. Our attorney informed us that we could change our names on our social security cards and passports, because they are federal; however, it is against the law to have those documents not match our drivers’ licenses. Georgia does not give licenses to same-gender-loving couples. Some couples have done this, but then they can not do any banking because of the driver’s license name difference.

4. Discuss your Equality in Marriage Laws Campaign.

The Pursuit of Happiness is Denied to us at Home and that has to stop! #maydaygaequality
It was during our journey to D.C. that our inspiration came to life from the Southerners Freedom to Marry Press Conference with Mayor Kasim Reed in February 2014 in Atlanta’s Marriage Equality Campaign Initiative. We talked about it for hour. As one of us talked, the other would research the meaning of mayday, mayday, mayday. We found that it was a radio distress signal used during war and a call to action for many campaigns of justice and equality. How befitting for us!

As online media personalities with LouddMouth Radio, we launched #MayDayGAEquality to invite other couples to join us in applying for their Marriage License on May 1, 2014. We wanted our voices heard across Georgia, our home state. We launched the campaign knowing we would be denied, maybe even jailed (although we thought about the jail part after we were cheering each person forward, including ourselves). Government leaders pay attention to the majority crying out. They are not concerned with one or two individuals unless one or two is drawing the attention of many. That is what our goal was–to draw the attention to the many–to over 20,000 known LGBTQ couples in Georgia. The reverberation of our call makes a mark that cannot easily be erased from the records, when thousands cry out in one voice: “We are in love, and we have a right to get married in the UNITED STATES.” We wanted the leaders of our state to recognize that many of us, gay and straight, own businesses that are directly and indirectly affected by the wedding industry. Just from an economical point of view, we lose money every time a wedding goes to another state. The average cost of a wedding is $28,000. Multiply that number by 21,000 known couples in the state of Georgia, and the figure is mind boggling.

Kasim reed press louddmouthradio

5. Where are you now in the walk to marriage equality?

We traveled heavily during the first few months of our #Maydaygaequality campaign to encourage couples and allies throughout GA, hosting press conferences and interviews whenever we could. We did this utilizing our own funds, and then we ran a fundraiser, in which we received backing from a few outstanding and grateful supporters. The fundraiser defrayed the cost of flyers/posters, gas and marketing needs. The cost was intense as we knew it would be, and we had to fall back and rely on social media and our radio show. We then aligned with other smaller and larger groups/churches to rally support for what we were doing to make an impact on all sides to change our state’s laws. We owe a large thanks to the churches and ministers that supported us: Deacon Brandon Maddox with “Love Under Fire” in Atlanta, GA; Restoration Inclusive Ministries with Senior Pastor Sonya Williams in Decatur, GA; Minister Kevin English-Taylor from Tabernacle Baptist Church; and one of our biggest allies and campaign groups in Savannah, GA, Agape Empowerment Ministries with Pastor Candace Hardnett and Minister Erika Majors. We have a host of media partners from radio to bloggers from the US to the UK that have taken the message farther than we could have dreamed.

Marriage matters tremendously to us because it is the outward symbolization to the world of our inward love affair. It opens doors for two people to receive honor as a unit and to be respected as a couple. To be able to have this freedom as a human being in the state where we live, pay taxes, work, play, build homes, raise families, etc., should not be a question or a legal issue. It is our Right as Americans. We live in the USA where cousins can marry each other, but two adults who happen to be same-gender-loving can not! How absurd! We continue to speak up and out for #maydaygaequality locally, through social media, interviews, public stances, and commitment ceremonies, where we can speak through action on a regular basis! We will not stop until victory is won in Georgia…and then abroad!

6. How can people support your efforts? Your fund-raising campaigns?

We appreciate any support financially to advance these efforts. At present, any donation can been paid via PayPal at

What advice on how to make love last do you have for lovers wanting a serious relationship?

Jazzie: The greatest advice I can give to any couple is found in who you are individually. Love yourself, and appreciate yourself in a way that you never allow anyone to treat you less than the love you give yourself. Once you master this, you will start to attract the same energy from another person. The key is once you have that special someone, in my opinion, you must love the person for who he or she is. Forget about changing the person. Like them right then and there. Lasting friendship builds from a place of mutual respect and acceptance of who a person is. Love and liking them keeps you in a blissful state. Dance often! Anywhere (we do). Laugh a lot, keep passion for each other, and build a strong Spiritual Foundation. For us, it is the best glue to unimaginable joy.

Sonny: To step into the relationship honest and transparent. You cannot pretend to be someone you are not and expect to maintain that status, image, personality that isn’t really you. So many people speak about how wonderful things were in the beginning and the habits and or actions that were shown in the first days, weeks, and months of a new relationship. It is important that both individuals maintain their “truth”~~ meaning you may have some things that you are more than happy to do. You may be willing to explore and maybe there is something that you just are not there with. Be honest about your challenges and struggles. Your partner is just that—your partner in life, in social affairs, and in business. All aspects of you are coming into this union; therefore, it is important that both people are treated equally and respected as such. Most importantly, be sure to communicate, and do everything fun for you and the other person. Enjoy as much as you can everyday that you can.


I am grateful for Sonny and Jazzie! They are not only activists for marriage equality, but also they are drum majors for love and a profound commitment to being the best person that you can be, in order to bring the best of you to a marriage!

Thank you,

Sonny and Jazzie

Los Angeles videos…in case you’re not on YouTube! :)

August 28, 2014

Greetings, Beloveds!

I’m TheLadyBestseller on YouTube, and I can be found under Claudia Moss! Don’t you just LOVE the power and immediacy of the Internet?

Multimedia Melodies to you! :D

Part Four: A Gallery of Pictures from the Lambda Writers Retreat

August 28, 2014

I am thinking we could meet this way for quite a long time, mis amigos! My collection of pictures seem to be growing with each one I post. Just illustrates my love of photography and the documentation of my life and of life in general! So stay with me…por favor!

In this picture, we were on the bus headed to Antioch University, where my Fellow Writers and I would be reading.  What a wonderful feeling to be captured in this photo with two writers I greatly admire, Regina Jamison and  Lucy Jane Bledsoe!

In this picture, we were on the bus headed to Antioch University, where my Fellow Writers and I would be reading. What a wonderful feeling to be captured in this photo with two writers I greatly admire, Regina Jamison and Lucy Jane Bledsoe!

Regina was feeling great before the reading, which she blew out of the water---it was so good!  Her usual island-laced voice took on a Southern flavor and suddenly the Antioch University auditorium became a mansion inhabited by her unforgettable characters, Smiddy and her girl Lurleen, and two dead bodies!  Get it, Regina!

Regina was feeling great before the reading, which she blew out of the water—it was so good! Her usual island-laced voice took on a Southern flavor and suddenly the Antioch University auditorium became a mansion inhabited by her unforgettable characters, Smiddy and her girl Lurleen, and two dead bodies! Get it, Regina!

Me before the Antioch reading!

Me before the Antioch reading!

A serious Regina, a pic-snapping me!

A serious Regina, a pic-snapping me!

The serenity of the campus...

The serenity of the campus…

Through the lattice...

Through the lattice…

Paradise exists everywhere...if you look with the Soul!

Paradise exists everywhere…if you look with the Soul!

Regina is decidedly productive in sunny shadows...and me, well, I am another subject for another day!  :D

Regina is decidedly productive in sunny shadows…and me, well, I am another subject for another day! :D

A view from the hillside...

A view from the hillside…

I'm HAPPY when I awake and find myself!  Ever delighting in the simple pleasure of loving me! I snapped this pic one morning before leaving the dorm for class.  It's a wonder Regina could stand me.  Gotta unbraid my Sisterlocked braids, find my lipstick, quick dancing in front of the window, shut my mouth and quit shaving time so close to the start of class!  But I assure you I relished having Regina as a roommate.  She's the greatest, the most thoughtful!  Amen.

I’m HAPPY when I awake and find myself! Ever delighting in the simple pleasure of loving me!
I snapped this pic one morning before leaving the dorm for class. It’s a wonder Regina could stand me. Gotta unbraid my Sisterlocked braids, find my lipstick, quick dancing in front of the window, shut my mouth and quit shaving time so close to the start of class! But I assure you I relished having Regina as a roommate. She’s the greatest, the most thoughtful! Amen.

Each time I look at this pic, I sigh...

Each time I look at this pic, I sigh…

Alright, Beloveds!

Forget it! I’ve got lots more pics to share, so do remember what I said in the opening of this post. :) At this time, I’m headed to the kitchen and then it’s the gym. Am standing in the flow of blessings today and every day. The house is quiet. Silence is the conductor; I am Her orchestra. And passion fountains freely….


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